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{3} is your communication on point?

if you’ve been following me here at all, you know i started a little “things you should know before jumpin’ the broom” series and well, finally, here’s #3.

so you’ve heard it a million times: communication is key in a relationship, and in a marriage, communication is paramount. if you don’t have it now, trust me, your relationship will suffer a slow, pitiful death. or maybe even a quick death depending on just how bad the non-communication is.

unless you and your man learn now how to communicate effectively through counseling or some type of osmosis you’re going to have big time marital problems in the future.

there are lots of talks to be had in a marriage like managing bills, how to discipline the children, when to purchase a new car, what insurance to go with, where to live… you get my drift. but there’s the small stuff too like, which way the toilet paper should hang and who’s going to walk the dog. if you’re fussing and fighting over the little things now, just imagine how difficult it will be to discuss the things that really matter.

how you communicate, just another thing to think about before jumping the broom!

{2} is he your personal style critic?

via Stasea Noelle on Pinterest

he’s with you, so he must dig your style, right? hmmmm…maybe.

at the core of it all, my style is generally the same, but you know how it is, we dress for our moods, where we’re going, who we’re seeing. what we wear to visit grandma isn’t always the same thing we wear to have drinks at happy hour with the girls.

and maybe, just maybe, the man prefers the visit to grandma’s look better.

does ever your man ever make subtle comments about what you wear? maybe that skirt’s a little too short for his taste and he suggests a longer one, the shirt’s cut a little too low and he’s throwing a turtleneck your way…in the summer. jeans are a little too tight and he’s making comments about how he doesn’t want other dudes looking at his [insert his favorite butt term here ].

well, you can best believe if he’s got you running into the closet to find something that’s more suitable to his taste now, once you’ve gone from girlfriend to wife, it’s gonna get deeper.

but maybe it’s not even about the length of your skirt or that the twins are peeking out too much. maybe your hair is natural and he’d like to see you a little more…smoothed out. or vice versa. maybe he’d like for you to give up the weave and get twists.

maybe you like hitting up thrift stores and vintage shops more these days, but he’s not gettin’ it and has a totally different idea of how he’d like you to look. you know, a little less solange and a lot more beyonce.

so if he’s all up in your style now, that’s just another thing to think about before jumpin’ the broom!